To begin with, I must say that this is not a listicle wherein I whine about the random problems that I have faced or any free advice related to life, love, and fashion. This is all about what I have learned in the past 6 years which basically started from my college. The best way to get certain thoughts flushed out of your mind is to write about it. Anybody who thinks I am whining or boasting or enforcing my opinions are welcome to find their way out of my blog.
The last 6 years have been demented, fun, enlightening and a lesson for me at every god damn step. From dropping out of Engineering to getting into Mass Communication to finally getting a job and settling down. I feel really old typing all this but then again, I know there’s a lot more stuff for me in store and a lot more experiences (both good and bad).
1. Parents are right but not necessarily all the time and YOU should be your priority:
I am absolutely not disrespecting my parents here or saying that they ruined my life. I am blessed to have parents like mine. I have been supported by them at all steps no matter how crazy that step was. I have been totally understood by them at the same time they being extremely strict (strict to the point that my friends were scared of them). Even then, I owe every success of mine to them. Had my Mum not been so strict, I wouldn’t have scored well or be the person I am at present. My father, however, has been my backbone. I would not say that he spoilt me but then he has been that stable guidance and pillar in all my journeys.
However, one decision catered me to lose out two years of my college. I was put into Engineering after my 12th. I did not want to study Engineering but somehow due to some miscommunication and also considering the fact that I was a bright student, I got admission to one of the worst colleges of Bangalore (I consider it worst. My opinion). I am gonna cut short on this story as a looot happened in those two years and I almost got into depression. I ran after a man who was the worst possible thing that could have ever happened to me and made me sacrifice all my self-respect. I fought quite hard to gain that self-respect back. I still hate the fact that I had to lose two years but then considering my 3 years of college life in Delhi, I have come out of the halo.
There, so I am a two-year dropout and currently a mass communication graduate with a decent job and trust me I am really happy that I dropped out. Moving to Delhi was the best decision of my life.
You have to be your own priority. Life is too short to run behind a guy.
2. Listen to your Parents:
I have had my share of bad deeds not listening to my parents. I am not saying that they are absolutely correct and whatever they say makes sense but then they are parents, they really know the world well (way better than us). I have had tons of fights with my Mum (I still do) but then, in the end, I know she is right and I try to listen to her as much as I can.
3. Stop trying to please others:
Let’s get this straight, you can’t. There is no need to please anyone. Dress up for yourself. Be all pretty or dress up like a tomboy, it’s all up to you. You cannot be perfect and hence you don’t have to try so hard. Don’t force yourself to diet simply because you can’t fit yourself in that skinny body-con dress. You have so many other options to try from!
4. Try breaking stereotypes:
Whosoever said you can’t wear dresses or skirts if you are on the healthier side should be just ignored and considered a lunatic. You can easily wear that short skirt or dress if you think you can carry it. If you think you are comfortable in jeans, then so be it. There is absolutely no pressure from anyone or nobody has the right to judge you or give you unwanted advice when it comes to your clothes. Giving advice is good but please don’t let your advice become a conscious statement for someone.
5. Stop being conscious because of people around you:
I have faced this and now I am totally over this. I was never judgmental but then I used to get conscious at times. I am a person who is comfortable in a T-shirt and denim when it comes to college. This doesn’t mean that I don’t like dressing up. I love dressing up but for occasions and now when I have to go to work. I still remember getting a bob cut and totally regretting it because people around me made me feel terrible. All I am saying is that whatever people tell shouldn’t bother you. If you are comfortable and can carry what you wear, you are good to go.
6. That right person is there for everyone:
I have heard people crying their heart out after a break up saying they will never be able to fall in love again. That is just bullshit maaaan! Life doesn’t end after one painful break-up. There are so many things that will keep you growing and you will enjoy that sacredness of being single. I have done this part of cribbing and whining for a guy who did not even deserve my tears. I was happily single until I found the man of the house. He is the only man who has been able to handle me at my worst. I trust him blindly. I was not even a tad bit unsure about marrying him. Please don’t cry for petty guys who I am sure will have a great time after the break-up.
7. You have to take care of your self-respect:
If you don’t love yourself and respect yourself, nobody else will. You can expect someone to respect you unless you do it for yourself. Its okay if your boyfriend is less romantic than you. No two person can have the same amount of feelings. But then, it’s not okay to be not respected. Every relationship needs to have a certain line.
8. Repeating the same thing over and over is a habit:
Once is a mistake, twice is a mistake, but thrice is a habit. This simply means that don’t be stupid and keep on repeating the same thing again and again even when you know that it might have bad consequences. Don’t let anybody’s stupidity take over your sanity.
9. It’s okay to not have the perfect figure:
Doesn’t matter if you are too skinny or too fat or on the healthier side. Forever 21 models should not be your ideal model. Doesn’t matter if you can’t wear deep necks or if you can’t wear hot pants. Life is not a goal about looking perfect. There are so many other things to worry about. So many other things to work on.
10. Less friends? Less popular in college? No big deal!
Lesser the friends, happier is your life. I swear by this. Believe me, I had the least amount of friends in college and I had a great time. And the best part is that I am still friends with them. It doesn’t matter if you are less popular in college. Doesn’t mean you will have to go to the washroom to perfect your make up during every break. I was in a college like this. Every time I went to the washroom, all I could see was girls doing touch ups (not everyone). Please let college feel like college and not a party.
11. It’s all right to have haters:
I am sure this post is going to get me quite a lot of haters but I do not really care. I have stopped caring about petty little things.
12. You are not a behenji if you wear a lot of Indian:
Trust me guys, I have got this as well. I have been called a behenji for wearing too much Indian which is absolutely ridiculous. I have been wearing sarees since forever. I have been to a club, went drinking in a saree and I love it. If people think Indian makes you look like a behenji then they have a sick mentality.
I am sure I am a better person now. My life has naturally been dramatic. There are certain things which could’ve been without melodrama but unfortunately, there has been a lot of drama. The picture with this post shows that I am all dressed up (doesn’t mean I am always like this). I love dressing up. I love wearing ethnic. I love wearing dresses and shorts too. I love saving some looks for special days. There are times when I choose ethnic over western. That doesn’t make me a behenji.
I am happy now. I am content with a decent job, with an amazing man and a not-so-boring life.
Thanks to everyone who has read this till the end.
-Love
WildChild
